Rebuilding your finances

Divorce usually means one household's income stretching to cover two homes. For many people, money is tight for a while afterwards. If you're one of them, you're not doing anything wrong. It's one of the most common experiences after separation.

The Fair Shares study, the largest recent research into money on divorce in England and Wales, found that a quarter of divorcees ended up with nothing or only debts, and that women tend to be financially worse off than men in the years after divorce (University of Bristol). This guide is about the practical steps that help you get steady again.

Start with an honest picture

Before you can plan, you need to know where you stand. Set aside an hour, make a cup of tea, and write down:

• everything coming in each month: wages, maintenance, benefits, any other income
• everything going out: rent or mortgage, bills, food, travel, childcare, debt repayments, subscriptions
• what you own: savings, pensions, a car, your share of any property
• what you owe, and to whom, with interest rates

If your ex always dealt with the money, this can feel overwhelming. That's fine. Most people find the not-knowing is worse than the numbers themselves.

Building a budget for one household

Your old budget won't fit your new life. Start from scratch, using your bank statements from the last couple of months as a guide. MoneyHelper, the free government-backed money guidance service, has a budget planner that walks you through it (MoneyHelper).

A few things that often help:

• Pay the essentials first. Rent or mortgage, Council Tax, energy and food come before anything else. These are the bills with the most serious consequences if they're missed.
• Review every subscription and contract. Things you shared, or signed up to as a couple, may not make sense now.
• Shop around for insurance, broadband and energy when contracts end.
• Plan for irregular costs like school uniforms, birthdays, car repairs and Christmas by setting aside a little each month.

You don't need a perfect budget. You need one you'll actually look at.

Make sure you're getting everything you're entitled to

Your entitlement to benefits and discounts can change completely when you separate, so it's worth checking even if you've never claimed anything before.

• Use a benefits calculator. GOV.UK links to free, independent calculators that show what you may be able to claim, including Universal Credit (GOV.UK).
• Claim the single person Council Tax discount if you're the only adult in your home. It takes 25% off your bill (GOV.UK). If you're on a low income, ask your council about Council Tax Reduction too.
• Check Child Benefit is being paid to the parent the children mainly live with.
• Sort out child maintenance. You can agree it between you or use the Child Maintenance Service, which is free to apply to. Payments you arrange directly through its Direct Pay option are free. If the service collects payments for you, the paying parent is charged 20% on top and the receiving parent has 4% deducted (GOV.UK).
• Look at childcare support. Depending on your circumstances, you may be able to get help with childcare costs. GOV.UK's childcare calculator can show you what's available.
• Cancel Marriage Allowance if you were claiming it, to avoid a tax bill later (GOV.UK).

If you're dealing with debt

Debt after divorce is common, and joint debts can be particularly stressful because a lender can usually chase either of you for the full amount, whatever you agreed between yourselves (MoneyHelper).

1. Don't ignore it. Contact lenders early, explain your situation and ask what help they offer. Many will agree reduced payments for a while.
2. Prioritise. Rent, mortgage, Council Tax, energy and court fines come first, because the consequences of not paying are the most serious.
3. Get free debt advice. MoneyHelper can point you to free, confidential debt advice services near you or online. Avoid companies that charge fees for debt solutions you could get free.

Repairing your credit file

Your credit file affects whether you can rent, get a mortgage or take out a phone contract in your own name.

• Check your file with the main credit reference agencies. You're entitled to see it free.
• Remove the link to your ex. Once you have no joint accounts or loans left, you can ask each agency for a notice of disassociation, so your ex's credit history doesn't affect you (MoneyHelper).
• Register to vote at your new address. Lenders use the electoral register to confirm who you are.
• Build a track record by paying bills on time, every time. If you're starting from nothing, a small credit card that you pay off in full each month can help, but only if you're confident you can.

If your ex controlled the money or ran up debts in your name, that's a form of financial abuse. MoneyHelper has guidance on taking back control after financial abuse (MoneyHelper), and the National Domestic Abuse Helpline (0808 2000 247, free, 24 hours) can help too.

Pensions, savings and the longer term

Once day-to-day money feels steadier, look further ahead.

• Build an emergency fund. Even a small amount set aside each month gives you breathing room.
• Check your pension. If you received a pension share, make sure it's been set up and you know where it is. If you gave up work or reduced hours during the marriage, consider whether you can increase contributions now. Our pensions guide explains more.
• Check your State Pension forecast on GOV.UK, and look at any gaps in your National Insurance record.
• Update nominations on pensions and life insurance so your ex isn't still named.
• Think about protection. If others now depend on your income, life insurance or income protection may matter more than before.

Free help with money

You don't have to work all this out alone. MoneyHelper offers free, impartial guidance online and by phone. Citizens Advice can help with benefits, debt and housing (Citizens Advice). And if you have bigger decisions to make, such as what to do with a lump sum or a pension share, a regulated independent financial adviser can help.

Money worries can take a real toll on your wellbeing. If it's getting on top of you, talk to someone. Samaritans are there any time on 116 123.

Common questions

Sources

1. University of Bristol and Nuffield Foundation, Fair Shares report (2023)
2. MoneyHelper, Budgeting
3. MoneyHelper, Joint bank accounts
4. MoneyHelper, Taking back control after financial abuse
5. GOV.UK, Benefits calculators
6. GOV.UK, How Council Tax works: who has to pay
7. GOV.UK, Child maintenance: paying through the Child Maintenance Service (updated 1 April 2026)
8. GOV.UK, Marriage Allowance: if your circumstances change
9. Citizens Advice

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This guide is general information about money after divorce in England and Wales, not financial advice. Benefits, fees and rules change, so check the sources above and speak to a qualified adviser about your situation. Facts checked 1 October 2026.